There are a few experiences in a young woman’s life that are quite literally unbelievable. Before your first period, it’s tough to fathom what it will feel like (or look like) to have tissue falling out of your body for days. Before your first kiss, it’s incredibly bizarre to imagine pressing your face into someone else’s and moving your tongue around. And having sex for the first time? Entire movie franchises are dedicated to how weird that is.
No matter your background, age, or experience, having sex for the first time is a big deal. You can (and should) prepare for itas much as possible, but you still can’t know exactly what it feels like until the deed is done.
That not everyone bleeds.
“Movies and books made me think my sheets would look like the scene of a horror film afterwards, but I didn’t bleed at all. I think if I’d known that beforehand, I would have been able to relax and enjoy it a little more.”—J