I recently read an article in Psychology Today called “10 Tips to Help You Pick a Good Partner‘’ What really jumped out at me was this line: “Picking the right person for the right reasons at the right time is an art form.” I cannot think of a more accurate statement in one sentence that sums up dating. With the divorce rates as high as they are, it makes sense that it takes the right person, right time and right reasons to make a fulfilling and strong relationship. I love Dr. Goldsmith’s tips, and as a nice complement, I wanted to write my own:
1. Don’t make choices out of fear: So many times people either choose a partner or stay with someone in an unhappy relationship predominantly out of some kind of fear. Usually that fear is being alone but fears can vary widely from person to person. It’s often better to be alone and wait for the right person than to make a decision out of fear. Making decisions out of fear leads to confusion, anxiety and a general feeling of something being amiss.