As soon as you start having sex consistently, you begin developing your repertoire of sexual techniques—your go-to ways of making a woman moan, and keeping her coming back for more.
But what if your signature moves just turn her off?
“We do a terrible job of teaching men about sexuality,” says Monica Lieser, a licensed marriage and family therapist and co-author of 14 Days of Foreplay. “They feel like they have to be in charge—they better know what to do. So they just kind of fill in the blanks.”
Sometimes, that kind of sexual improvising works. But other times, it just leaves her feeling irritated.
How many bedroom offenses are you guilty of committing? Read on to find out—and learn alternative moves that she’ll be begging for next time.
YOU LEAVE YOUR SOCKS ON.
Maybe you just like keeping your feet warm—or perhaps you think leaving your knee-highs on is as erotic as her wearing heels to bed.
Wrong. It’s actually a major mood-killer for women: “It’s just not visually attractive,” says Lieser. “You look like a toddler—and clearly, we don’t associate that with sexuality in any way.”
Another not-so-innocent implication: Sporting socks during sex may suggest you’re so agenda-driven—get in, get off!—that you’re unwilling to even fully undress.
If you like the idea of staying partially clothed, leave your pants around your ankles instead of stripping down to yoursocks, Lieser suggests.
You repeatedly touch her no-fly zones.