A Facebook girl, Honey Phoenix shared this heartbreaking story about how a pastor tried to sleep with her after her parents took her to Omega Fire Ministries for deliverance because they claimed she was not acting like a Christian.
She is a Nigerian, based in Abuja and attended the University of Nigeria in Nsukka and she was there for a one-month retreat, so she packed her things and went to live with him. She slept there throughout the one month. It was in 2013 and she was just 22.
She continued to talk about how the pastor persisted even when his wife was around
We used to have night prayers and he would prolong the prayers till his heavily pregnant wife got tired and he’l encourage her to go to bed and rest…once she leaves he starts to tell me how much he loves me and how i dont need deliverance because there is nothing wrong with me,and how i am a nice girl who her parents misunderstood.
I was not all that suprised and i tried to take advantage of the situation. I would miss prayers or evening service because i knew he wont do anything about it.
But then his wife started to notice that i had too much freedom.and what suprised me was that he did not seem to care…he would try to kiss me when his wife was just one room away…he would wink at me when her back was turned…he would hold my hand at the back seat of the car when we are returning from night vigil. He was like a love struck teenager.
She said the more she avoided him, the more he became desperate, questioning her as to why she was avoiding him and telling her that he could get his personal assistant to arrange a quiet time for the two of them somewhere.
Honey said she eventually reported the pastor’s conduct to the assistant pastor of the church, who, she said, shed tears in disbelief.
The assistant pastor, she said, advised her to pack her things and return home immediately, but she felt she could not do that because the “retreat” was not yet over.
Honey said after a vigil at Omega Fire Ministries headquarters in Auchi, Edo State, one night, she confided in a friend of hers as to what was going.
However, according to her, her father’s driver overheard the conversation and reported to her father when they later returned to Abuja.
“The sad part about it all was that my parents called the pastor and his wife to ask them instead of me. And they heaped it all on me. They said I have been misbehaving because I am tired of the “retreat” and I sleep during prayers, I don’t go to the evening services and I have come up with accusations because I want to go.
“The good thing was that I moved back home,”she said.
Honey has received words of support and encouragement from social media users, with some of them urging her to sue the pastor for sexual assault. Some also shared similar harrowing experiences, while others commended her for having the courage to tell her story.
Been reading your account. Wish I could comment, but we ain’t friends.
Sadly, most folks don’t understand what it’s like growing up in a home where the children have little or no say and are raised to be totally dependent on their parents. It’s even worse with well-to-do homes, where you have been raised with no Street sense or sense of independence and you have to start learning to stand up for yourself much later than your “less privileged” friends, learning after/from them.
Let no one judge you or make you feel or relive that tight space. You seem to have found your freedom. And I’m glad you found the release in speaking up.
And for those who want to take this religious and start blackmailing you, they have no idea how opportunistic many pastors become, with a sense of invincibility. I’d say no more.
Just grow up into the person you desire to be. Better late than never.
The sad thing is that this is happening everyday in almost every country and it is always difficult to talk about it because chances are that the victim would be seen as the alleged at the end of the day.